Mathura, 11 July 2019
“It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.” - Andre Gide
I want all of you to take a moment and think if you’re killing your true potential by following the norm.
Every person on this earth is unique and has a purpose. But how many times have you reluctantly done something for the sake of following a tradition or the norm?
What is a norm you may ask? A norm means a certain behaviour or situation that is expected or considered to be typical.
For example, how many of you think that blue is for boys and pink is for girls? Men don’t cry and the women MUST know how to cook? You’re expected to be married by 25 and if you’re already married, you must already have kids!
Why do we do this?
It’s because when we follow the norm, it makes us feel accepted… a part of our family, friends and the society. It makes us feel and look normal.
Do you know, by subconsciously practicing social norms, you are also carrying these social norms onto your children and the next generation? Where else, the generation who created these norms for some reason will be long dead and gone, the reasons buried with them.
How to escape the norm?
Doing something safe is easy, but when you do something different and have that feeling of anxiety, fear and excitement altogether, that is – BETTER! It pushes you out of your comfort zone.
Start small. How? Guys, go ahead and wear pink. Girls, just marry a chef! Don’t feel obliged to fulfill the expectations of others, unless it's for your higher good!
Having more control over your life will bring you increased self-confidence, resulting in you taking up more challenges and THAT helps build resilience. Put it all together and you’re on your way to a more fulfilling life!
Mental notes to make:
You don’t have to be married by 25
You don’t have to have kids immediately after your marriage
You don’t have to do any of it, if it doesn’t feel right for you!
LIVE LIFE YOUR WAY!
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